How To Make An Impact On A Man

from the "insightful" pages of Cosmopolitan magazine

WITH BEAUTY? NOT NECESSARILY. BRAINS? THEY GET DISCOVERED LATER. ANSWER: SECRET (SEXYISH) SIGNALS. YOU CAN DO IT TOO!


What to Wear

  • If your style of dress is cool and conservative, change it -- at least for out-of-the-office situations. Wear body-hugging styles, lots of jewelry, vivid eye makeup and lipstick. A lush style is a sexual signaler.
  • When you go to parties, pin a fresh flower in your hair. That's how South Sea island girls signal their availability.
  • Buy and wear tons of animal prints -- leopard-patterned pants, tiger-striped tops. You'll look feral.
  • If you have good legs, wear a very tight short skirt and very high heels. Bend over with your back to a man (to pick something up or look in file drawer, etc.).
  • Leave the two middle buttons of your button-up-the-back blouse undone and ask him to please do you up. He'll see that you're wearing a skimpy black bra or no bra at all.
  • Let him know that you never wear underwear -- too confining.
  • Keep your hair long and lush. Ignore women friends who tell you short is chic. Men like an abundance of tresses.
  • Always wear perfume. Find a scent that works for you and spray it on pulse points when you dress. Spritz a little now and then during the day.
  • If you look good in a hat, wear one. Men love hats.
  • Wear a fresh flower in the lapel of your conservative suit.
  • Show plenty of back -- everybody knows your bosom is sexy, but a frock cut to the waist in back also has appeal. Learn to roll you shoulders elegantly.
  • Wear angora, and if you have the chance, why not casually brush against his bare skin?
  • Red is a very sexy color -- as in red-hot. A slinky red dress would do it. Or try something a little more subtle: Wear gorgeous red underwear, and show it "accidentally" -- your blouse is open a bit, so a man sees a peek of red lace bra ... You cross your legs and your skirt rides up to reveal a flash of red petticoat.
  • Every woman seriously interested in attracting men should invest in a short black leather skirt and wear it with heels. You won't need an outrageous, sexy top, the heels and leather say it all.
  • Apply lipstick expertly, seductive, suggestively.

Sexy Behavior

  • Catch a man's eye and then very deliberately look down at his crotch. This should be done with a playful look or smile , not as though you're about to put him through a meat grinder. He should feel deliciously flattered, not attacked.
  • Immediately after you meet him -- within seconds -- touch him in some way, even if it's just to pick off imaginary lint. It tells him right away that you're physically aware of and interested in him.
  • You can't be too sexy a dancer. Swing those hips and shake.
  • Run your fingers lightly over the man's knuckles. It will send sexy shivers up and down all around him.
  • Feel his muscles.
  • Order an unordinary drink, like a kin or Compari and soda.
  • Cross and uncross your legs a lot. As you do, slide them up and down a bit so he hears, very faintly, the sexy sound of nylon aganst nylon.
  • Try to act calm, even if you aren't; nothing is more appealing than a person with whom you feel relaxed.
  • Kick off your shoes so he can see your lovely feet -- lots of men have foot fetishes.
  • Give the man a warm good-bye kiss (on the cheek) eventhough you've just met.
  • Kiss everyone -- even the women -- goodnight. European girls always do.

Talk Him Into Your Life

  • Just after meeting a man, suggest that you find a table or quiet corner so that you can chat without distractions.
  • Ask him if he's ever considered being a model -- especially effective if the man isn't handsome.
  • Talk sexy -- or at least suggestive!
  • Whisper that you heard the most flattering comment about him (make something up), but say you can't possibly divulge the source.
  • Though you know him only casually, tell him you had a dream about him last night. Hint that it was wicked.
  • Say something slightly inappropriate during business lunch or dinner, such as "You look great in blue." This should be done while you are talking about something else -- for example, " I was working on the Apex campaign, and did you know you look great in blue?" We don't know why, but men love this kind of thing.
  • Tell a very, very funny joke (practice!) within his hearing. This takes research and perhaps a few rehearsals. A genuinely funny, entertaining woman is a turn-on; the man figures he'll never be bored.
  • Become a sports fanatic -- even if you loathe baseball and football. Become mistress of scads of sports data, and fake a passion that's bound to turn men on.

Go for It!

  • Drop your purse, a pile of papers, anything, as you pass his desk, then stoop down to gather it up. He'll help. Lean close to him, put your hand on his shoulder to steady your balance.
  • Spill a glass of wine (water, whatever) down the front of your dress while talking to him. Ask for his handkerchief to mop it up.
  • Share your umbrella with a man who forgot his.
  • Brush up against somebody in the elevator, in a restaurant, on the street. He may act as if he doesn't notice, but he'll love it.
  • Send a bottle of wine to his table.
  • One woman, not knowing how to meet an attractive man she had spotted in a bar, handed him a note with her phone number that said, "I like your shoes. Call me." The phone was ringing when she got home.


Last Updated: Sat Aug 15 14:24:41 CDT 1995
This site is based off of an internet posting of a famous Cosmopolitan article.